Subjectivity is your own unique point of view, the way you see things somewhere inside your skull. What you see subjectively may be the outer world from your eyes or the world inside you from your mind’s eye. What you see of the outer world is partial but unique. What you see of your inner world is unique and almost complete. The reason it’s not completely complete is that you can’t see yourself seeing yourself. This has some implications, such as you can’t experience the discontinuity of your own thought processes or know that what you are currently experiencing is a dream rather than reality or know when you are losing your marbles. But what we can see of our inner world is something no one else can see.
This brings us to objectivity. Objectivity is not subjectivity. It is nowhere, everywhere, and somewhere in between. It is usually thought of as some kind of statistical average, median, standard deviation, summary, etc. of all the subjective points of view. It might be better to think of it as a mathematical distillation of every possible or every rational point of view, whether or not there’s a real subject behind those points of view. Maybe it’s best to think of it as the single true fact regardless of anyone’s subjective point of view. The only intelligent thing I can say about objectivity is that it can’t say anything intelligent about what is going on in your inner world. So much for objectivity.
So how can we talk to each other about anything besides the weather or sports? How can we share inner experiences? How can we help each other get through tough inner conflicts? For a start, not by being objective, but by being as subjective as we can.
Unfortunately many of us don’t really know ourselves very well. Such people are not well acquainted with what’s going on inside them, how they work on the inside. They know well enough what’s going on outside them and how things work in the outer world, but they are strangers to themselves.
How can being as subjective as we can help someone else? When we experience things deeply, we grow another set of ears that help us to hear others with similar experiences better. When we’ve experienced an inner conflict and then someone else experiences a similar conflict, we lessen their load even if we haven’t figured out how to resolve that conflict ourselves. We know others only by knowing ourselves.